irl is out with friends. Boy sees girl in a sexy dress. They exchange numbers. They date and (in a perfect world) fall in love. Girl stops wearing sexy dresses. Sound familiar?
The is the classic case of the old ‘Bait and Switch’ or as my good friend Jeff calls it, a swindle. I’ve known girls who meet a guy and had him feeling like the luckiest man in the room. His boys said he couldn’t do it but, he did! And for the first few dates, she was doing the MOST when it comes to getting ready. Nail done, hair done, everything BIG! Ladies, you know how it goes. You are the baddest chick and you revel in the glory of seeing his jaw fall on the floor when he comes to pick you up from your apartment. You’re thinking, “Yeah, I got this!”. And for the most part, you do! Get ’em girl!! The poor man doesn’t stand a chance against those curves in your Top Shop dress and 4-inch Chrissy Loubs!
When we are single, sexy and free, we are experts in what to wear and do to get a guy. When we finally DO get one, we act like we forgot how to even spell SENSUAL. All of a sudden, our hair is in a ponytail all the time and the tight dresses are pushed all the way to the back of the closet. Hell! We don’t even wear lip gloss anymore! And you’re sitting here saying to yourself , ‘For what?! He’s my man. I did what I needed to do to get him and he loves me for me now. I don’t need to impress him anymore’.
I’m here to tell you, you are dead wrong! I’m not saying that you should be a Barbie doll for your Sig’s sole enjoyment. But you SHOULD continue to be the sexy, confident, fly girl he
took home that night met! This right here reminds me of Kelly Rowland’s verse in ‘Cater to You’ where she sings: “I’ll keep it tight/keep my figure right/I’ll keep my hair fixed/Keep rockin’ the hottest outfits”. Hello! This is the blueprint right here. Here are my reasons for keeping it sexy after getting the title.
- Imagine if he did that mess to you! He wouldn’t live a day in his life with hearing about how he has a little tummy now and why does he have to wear a wife beater EVERYWHERE? I’m not going to lie. If my man’s daily uniform all of a sudden became his favorite basketball shorts, I’d probably shred them in his sleep. Not really. But you get the idea.
- If not for you, at least do it for yourself. Nothing makes me feel more confident than when my hair is done and I look good…for ME! I feel unstoppable and I know you do too.
- The competition is none. We all know guys look at other women when we’re not looking. But why give them a real reason? You need to have Gabrielle Union walk into the room and ask YOU where you got your shoes! Your man should be thinking “Gabby’s alright but, she ain’t effin’ with my baby.”
Ladies, am I right or wrong? Do you think staying sexy is important to the overall health of a relationship or do you feel that your man should take you as you are, flaws and all?